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RCTS – Ramadaan Cooking Tips for Sisters

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RCTS – Ramadaan Cooking Tips for Sisters

For the sisters who will be cooking this Ramadaan, don’t cook anything extra, in fact meals should be more simple. Simply put, the whole aim of Ramadaan is gaining Taqwa and you can’t do that if you don’t feel the pain of hunger. Don’t waste your precious time standing for hours in the kitchen.

Tips for Time Utilization in relation to food:

1- Search fun, simple and quick recipes now and save them for Ramadaan. It took me a long time to find quick, simple and good recipes but it was time well spent.

2- Try and do meals that depend on putting something in the oven or slow cooker that doesn’t necessarily need you standing there.

3- Limit frying as much as possible. It wastes time and is not healthy anyway.

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4- Kids breakfast, lunch and snacks during the day should be healthy but choose no cooking options. Plenty of raw fruit and veggies, healthy smoothies, sandwiches etc.

5- Limit extra sweets, so you don’t cook more and more importantly so we actually feel what poor people go through.

6- Minimize extravagant outings, meals at restaurants etc for the same reason above, save the money towards giving charity.

Ramadaan isn’t about more food , it should be the opposite. We should hardly care about it except to give us energy to continue.

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7- Explain your plan to your husband/kids so everyone knows what to expect, ask for their support and to make this Ramadaan about Jannah NOT the kitchen.

8- If your husband is that kind of demanding husbands, do not make him upset, cook the food that he likes and keep dhikr on your tongue. Keep repeating and pondering on the meaning.

9- Minimize having guests over or going to dinner, and if you do, make it One-Dish (everyone makes a dish)  so not one person is left with all the cooking to do.

If you have gatherings, try and get some spiritual benefit out of it even if you just share one hadeeth with them. [You can share this hadeeth (“Did he not reach Ramadaan, fast and pray…?”) or choose (from here)

10- Don’t forget to have an intention while cooking that you are making Iftaar for a fasting person, even if it is your husband and children.

11- Make the quantity little more and prepare a plate for any deserving /poor worker for his Iftar.

12- Listen to a lesson or Qur’aan while cooking. You can review the soorah, that you have memorized, play it on mobile/CD player and keep reciting it with the shaykh. Or simply just make any Dhikr, try not to waste any time.

13- Cook meals now and freeze them if possible. Even if it’s something simple.

[for example you are making a meal with mince, make extra and freeze half. Later on just boil some spaghetti, add red sauce and the frozen mince and you have a meal].

14. You can also do the samoosa/roll filling ready now, prepare the filling, wrap the samoosa/rolls or such, freeze them and in Ramadaan, just take those out and fry.

15- Don’t waste any food, eat leftovers and don’t cook any new meals unless you have finished the previous one.

16- Try not to cook every day and cook for at least 2 days in advance. Remember it’s NOT about the food.

We do not know, if we will be able to see this Ramadaan & live to its fullest. I personally know people who passed away recently and missed out on this opportunity to start over and reconnect with Allaah.

May Allaah let us witness Ramadaan and may we reap the benefits from it, Aameen

Forwarded message with some addition & modification by me

Related Posts:

Time Management Tips for Ramadaan

Tips To Avoid Distractions During Ramadaan [NEW]

Welcoming Ramadaan  [Must read]

Some Common mistakes in Ramadaan

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3Eed Prayer For Women

3Eid prayer for women is Sunnah 

3Eed Prayer is not obligatory for women, but it is Sunnah. Women should offer this prayer in the prayer-place with the Muslims, because the Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam enjoined them to do that.

Umm 3Atiyah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “We were commanded (and in one report it says, he commanded us; meaning the Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam) to bring out to the 3Eed prayers the adolescent girls and the women in seclusion, and he commanded the menstruating women to avoid the prayer-place of the Muslims.” (1)

According to another report: “We were commanded to come out and to bring out the adolescent girls and those in seclusion.” (2)

Better for woman to go out to the 3Eed prayers or to stay at home

It is better for women to go out to the 3Eed prayer. Umm 3Atiyyah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said:  The Messenger of Allaah SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam commanded us to bring them (women) out on (3Eed) al-Fitr and (3Eed) al-Adha, and to bring out adolescent girls, menstruating women and virgins, but the menstruating women were to stay away from the prayer, but were to witness goodness and the gathering of the Muslims.

I said: “O Messenger of Allaah, what if one of us does not have a jilbaab?”

He said: “Let her sister lend her a jilbaab.”  (3)

Al-Haafiz said: This shows that it is mustahabb for women to come out and attend the 3Eed prayers, whether they are young or not.

Shaykh Ibn 3Uthaymeen was asked: what is better for a woman, to come out to the 3Eed prayer or to stay at home?

He replied: “It is better for them to go out to 3Eed prayer, because the Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam enjoined that the women go out to the 3Eed prayer, even the adolescent girls and virgins – i.e., women who do not ordinarily go out. He commanded them to go out, and he told the menstruating women to go out but to keep away from the prayer-place. So menstruating women should go out with other women for 3Eed, but they should not enter the place where the Eed prayer is offered, because the 3Eed prayer-place is a mosque and it is not permissible for a menstruating woman to stay there, but it is permissible for her to pass through or to take something she needs from it, without staying there. Based on this we say: women are commanded to go out to the 3Eed prayer and join the men in this prayer, because of the goodness, dhikr and du3aa’ they may experience there.” (4)

He also said:

“But they must go out looking decent, not wearing adornment, makeup or perfume, so that they may combine following the Sunnah with avoiding fitnah”. (5)

Related Posts:

Aadaab al-3Eed (3Eed Etiquettes)

Rulings about Covering the Feet  (Must read for sisters)

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References:
(1) Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1/93; Muslim, 890.
(2) http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/26983
(3) Al-Bukhaari (324) and Muslim (890)
(4) Majmoo3 Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn 3Uthaymeen, 16/210.
(5) http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/49011
 

Wisdom Behind Fasting the Six Days of Shawwaal

Shaykh 3Uthaymeen may Allaah have mercy on him, said about fasting the six days of shawwaal:

“The wisdom behind fasting the six days of Shawwaal is the same as the wisdom regarding other optional acts which Allaah has ordained for His Servants in order to make the obligatory actions complete.  So fasting the six days of Shawwaal is like the supererogatory Sunnah prayers [ar-Raatibah] which are performed after the obligatory prayers in order to complete any deficiencies in them. 

And from Allaah, the Most High’s, Wisdom is that He made Sunnah [prayers] for the obligatory ones in order to complete them and raise them [in rank], so fasting the six days of Shawwaal has this great benefit.” (1)

The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said: “The first thing for which people will be brought to account on the Day of Resurrection will be their salaah (prayer). Our Lord, may He be glorified and exalted, will say to His angels – although He knows best – ‘Look at the salaah of My slave, whether it is complete or incomplete.’ If it is perfect, it will be recorded as perfect, and if something is lacking, He will say, ‘Look and see whether My slave did any voluntary (naafil) prayers.’ If he did some voluntary prayers, [Allaah] will say, Complete the obligatory actions of My slave from his voluntary actions.’ Then all his actions will be dealt with in a similar manner.” (2)

Related Post:

Virtue of Fasting Six Days of Shawwaal

Shawwaal [page updated]

References:
(1) Fataawaa Noorun-3Alaa Darb.
(2) Narrated by Abu Dawood (http://islamqa.info/en/ref/7859)

Virtue of Fasting Six Days of Shawwaal

Fasting six days of Shawwaal after the obligatory fast of Ramadaan is Sunnah Mustahabbah. It is recommended for the Muslim to fast six days of Shawwaal, and in this there is great virtue and an immense reward.

Whoever fasts these six days will have recorded for him a reward as if he had fasted a whole year.

Abu Ayyoob radi Allaahu 3Anhu reported that the Messenger of Allaah SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said: “Whoever fasts Ramadaan and follows it with six days of Shawwaal, it will be as if he fasted for a lifetime (whole year).” (1)

The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam explained this when he said: “Whoever fasts for six days after (3Eed) al-Fitr has completed the year: (whoever does a good deed (hasanah) will have ten hasanah like it).”

According to another report: “Allaah has made for each hasanah ten like it, so a month is like fasting ten months, and fasting six days completes the year.” (2)

It was also narrated by Ibn Khuzaymah with the wording: “Fasting for the month of Ramadaan brings the reward of ten like it, and fasting for six days brings the reward of two months, and that is the fasting of the whole year.”

Another of the important benefits of fasting six days of Shawwaal is that it makes up for any shortfall in a person’s obligatory Ramadaan fasts, because no one is free of shortcomings or sins that have a negative effect on his fasting. On the Day of Resurrection, some of his naafil deeds will be taken to make up the shortcomings in his obligatory deeds.

The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said: “The first thing for which people will be brought to account on the Day of Resurrection will be their salaah (prayer). Our Lord, may He be glorified and exalted, will say to His angels – although He knows best – ‘Look at the salaah of My slave, whether it is complete or incomplete.’ If it is perfect, it will be recorded as perfect, and if something is lacking, He will say, ‘Look and see whether My slave did any voluntary (naafil) prayers.’ If he did some voluntary prayers, [Allaah] will say, Complete the obligatory actions of My slave from his voluntary actions.’ Then all his actions will be dealt with in a similar manner.” (3) 

Related Posts:

Fasting in Shawwaal

Rulings on Fasting in Shawwaal for Women (Updated) (must read)

References:
(1) Muslim, Abu Dawood, At-Tirmidhee, an-Nisaa’ee and Ibn Maajah
(2) An-Nisaa’ee and Ibn Maajah. Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 1/421.
(3) Narrated by Abu Dawood
http://islamqa.info/en/ref/7859

Laylatul Qadr & Menstruating Women

What can a woman who is menstruating do on Laylat al-Qadr?

A woman who is menstruating may do all acts of worship apart from praying, fasting, circumambulating the Ka3bah and doing i3tikaaf in the mosque.

It was narrated that the Prophet sallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam used to stay up at night during the last ten nights of Ramadaan. It is narrated that 3Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “When the last ten nights of Ramadaan came, the Prophet sallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam would refrain from marital relations, stay up at night and wake his family up.” (1)

Staying up at night is not only for prayer, rather it includes all kinds of acts of worship. This is how the scholars interpreted it. 

Al-Haafiz said: “Staying up at night” means staying up to do acts of worship. 

Al-Nawawi said: spending the night staying up to pray etc. 

He said in 3Awn al-Ma’bood: i.e., in prayer, dhikr and reciting the Qur’aan. 

Praying qiyaam is the best act of worship that a person can do on Laylat al-Qadr. Hence the Prophet sallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam said: “Whoever spends the night of Laylat al-Qadr in prayer out of faith and in hope of reward, his previous sins will be forgiven.” (2) 

Because the woman who is menstruating is not allowed to pray, she can spend the night in doing other acts of worship apart from prayer, such as:

1- Reading or reciting Qur’aan.

2- Dhikr – such as saying Subhaan-Allaah, La ilaaha illa-Allaah, al-Hamdu Lillaah, etc. She can repeat the words “Subhaan-Allaah wa’l-hamdu Lillaah, wa laa ilaaha ill-Allaah, wa Allaahu akbar (Glory be to Allaah, praise be to Allaah, there is no god but Allaah and Allaah is Most Great)” and “Subhaan Allaah wa bi hamdihi, subhaan Allaah il-3Azeem (Glory and praise be to Allaah, glory be to Allaah the Almighty)” etc.

3- Istighfaar (praying for forgiveness), by repeating the phrase “Astaghfir-Allaah (I ask Allaah for forgiveness).”

4- Du3aa’ (supplication) – she can pray to Allaah and ask Him for what is good in this world and in the Hereafter, for du3aa’ is one of the best acts of worship. The Prophet sallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam said, “Du3aa’ is 3ibaadah (worship).” (3)

The woman who is menstruating can do these acts of worship and others on Laylat al-Qadr.

Related Posts:

References:

(1) Al-Bukhaari (2401) and Muslim (1174)
(2) (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1901; Muslim, 760)
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/26753
(3) Al-Tirmidhi, 2895; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 2370).

Rulings on Fasting in Shawwaal for Women

Should a Woman Start with Making up Missed Fasts from Ramadaan or with the 6 days of Shawwaal?

If she wants to earn the reward mentioned in the hadeeth of the Prophet sallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam: “Whoever fasts Ramadaan then follows it with six days of Shawwaal, it will be as if he fasted for a lifetime” (1), then she should complete her Ramadaan fasts first, then follow it with six days of Shawwaal, so that the hadeeth with be applicable to her too, and she will gain the reward mentioned in it. (2)

Shaykh Ibn 3Uthaymeen was asked: What if a woman owes days from Ramadaan – is it permissible for her to give precedence to fasting the six days of Shawwaal over making up the days she owes, or should she give priority to the days she owes over fasting the six days of Shawwaal? 

He replied: If a woman still owes days from Ramadaan, then she should not fast the six days of Shawwaal until after she has made up what she owes, because the Prophet sallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam said: “Whoever fasts Ramadaan then follows it with six days of Shawwaal…”

Whoever still has days to make up from Ramadaan has not fasted Ramadaan, so she will not attain the reward of fasting the six days of Shawwaal until after she has finished making up the days she owes.

If we assume that this making up missed fasts lasts throughout Shawwaal, such as if a woman was bleeding following childbirth and did not fast at all in Ramadaan, then she started to make up her missed fasts in Shawwaal and did not finish that until Dhu’l-Qa3dah began, then she may fast the six days, and she will have the reward of one who fasted them in Shawwaal, because she delayed it for a necessary reason, so she will have the reward. (3)

Fasting Six Days of Shawwaal Before Making up Missed Fasts, if there are not enough days left?

Fasting six days of Shawwaal is dependent upon having completed the Ramadaan fast, according to the correct view. This is indicated by the words of the Prophet sallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam: “Whoever fasts Ramadaan then follows it with six days of Shawwaal, it will be as if he fasted a lifetime.”

The conjunction thumma (ثُمَّ) (then) indicates that this must be done in this order. This indicates that the fast of Ramadaan must be completed first (by observing the Ramadaan fast and making up any missed fasts), then after that one may fast the six days of Shawwaal, so as to attain the reward mentioned in the hadeeth. (4)

The one who still has some days to make up is not regarded as having fasted Ramadaan until he makes up those days. Some people think that if they fear Shawwaal is going to end soon and they fast the six days even though they still owe some days from Ramadaan, that this is acceptable. This is a mistake, because these six days cannot be fasted until a person has made up the days that he owes from Ramadaan. (5)

Delaying Making up Missed Fasts

Anyone who has days to make up from the (previous) Ramadaan then he/she has to make them up before (the arrival of) the next Ramadaan. It is permissible for him/her to delay his/her fast until Sha3baan.

However, if the following Ramadhaan arrives and he/she still has not made up the (missed) days without (a valid) reason, then he has committed a sin. So now he/she has to make up those days along with feeding a poor person for every day (he has to make up). (6)

And Allaah is the source of strength.

Related Post:

Fasting in Shawwaal

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References:
(1) Muslim, no. 1984
(2) http://islamqa.com/en/ref/4082
(3) Majmoo3 al-Fataawa, 20/19. http://islamqa.com/en/ref/40389
(4) http://islamqa.com/en/ref/40389
(5) Majmoo3 Fataawa Ibn 3Uthaymeen, 20/438. 
(6) Shaykh Ibn Baaz, Fataawa Ramadhaan – Volume 2, Page 555, Fatwa No. 537;
al-Fataawa libni-Baaz – Kitaab ad-Da3waah, Volume 2, Page 158-159

A different kind of true story

Assalaamu 3Alaykum wa rahmatullaah

The exceptional characteristics some people display are quite dumbfounding really, particularly when you put yourself in their shoes.

This story published in Saudi Gazette is one such. (reference below (1))

JEDDAH — The touching story began when Abdullah Banimah, who is completely paralyzed appeared on a satellite television program talking about spreading the message of Islam in several countries in the world.

[Abdullaah’s video: clip 1 and clip 2]

When his future wife saw the program she immediately told her father about her desire to marry him because she admired him for courageously facing up to his disability and for dedicating his life to Islamic preaching.

Their dream turned true Tuesday when their friends queued along the road leading to the Al-Salam Wedding Hall in Jeddah to wish the couple a happy married life.

Abdullah had almost drowned in a swimming pool at a sports club in Jeddah. He had remained underwater for 15 minutes. This caused a great deal of damage to his brain which resulted in his paralysis.

The incident made him change his life completely by dedicating it to Islamic work.

Dhaiffallah bin Saad Al-Ghamadi, the bride’s father, said: “My daughter, who works as teacher for one of the Holy Qur’an memorization schools in Jeddah, chose Abdullah on her own. After insisting she wanted to get married to him, I bowed to her will.”

Dhaifallah said the reason for marrying Abdullah is for them to work hand-in-hand in the way of Allah.

Omar Banamh, the groom’s father, said: “I have nothing to say but to pray to Allah to crown this marriage by blessing them with pious offspring.”

He said he hoped Abdullah will see his children grow up with no disability.

Abdullah was ecstatic about his marriage.

“In the beginning I could not believe this was her desire. She really surprised me. I will never ever forget her noble stand and insistence on accepting me as her husband. I pray to Allah day and night to enable me to make her happy for the rest of my life.”

He said he will never forget, for the rest of his days, the many people who had gathered to wish him a happy marriage.”

SubhaanAllaah!!

What a story.

Number of points there.

1. There do exist such people Masha Allah. The daughter, her father, her family should all be praised. Imagine yourself in that situation.

Would you do that? Or would you allow your daughter to marry a crippled man?

What about the extended family?

She belongs to Al-Ghamdi family, which means she comes from the so-called “high society”. How difficult would it be for people to disregard social honor and societal pressure?.

This is why these people are special, masha Allah. May Allah increase their guidance and bless them with good in this life and the hereafter. These are the role models of a society. They deserve coverage in the media. People need good examples.

2. Look at the zeal they have for Islam. Look at how this man’s life changed after a tragedy. So the tragedy was the beginning really. A beginning of a journey insha Allah to achieve the eternal.

3. Despite all difficulties, if Allah wants to bless someone with something, it will come to you. Who would have thought a paralyzed man would get married in the first place? He not only got married, but got a wife who is Insha Allah better than many women.

4. Look at the noble way in which the woman approached the issue of marriage. She wanted to marry him. She spoke to her father and her father approached the man’s family. This is so noble. It’s the pure path Islam has facilitated for men and women — marriage. At stark contrast is the lewd path, where men or women express their feelings to each other and fall into Haraam and illicit relationships. A slippery slope that pulls people down the pit of lust. There’s no love, purity or chastity — there’s only pain, selfishness and desires that turn human beings into animals.

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(1) The Gazette didn’t publish it online, but one can find it in the Feb. 18 print edition on Page 3

Taken from http://saudilife.net/component/content/article/44-jeddah/179-a-different-kind-of-love-story.html

A Topic we pretend does not exist

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Today’s topic is about something we DON’T really want to talk about.

It’s about…. PLUCKING EYEBROWS


This is a topic we just want to avoid or hope it would go away Although, not thinking about it does not mean that the Hukum (order) isn’t there.
And you know what? It is sad to say that 90% of our sisters are guilty of doing it.

But dear Sister, have you really thought about it?

What does Islam REALLY say about shaping the eyebrows?

It says in “Fataawa al-Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-Uthaymeen”:

Plucking of women’s eyebrows is not permissible. The Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) cursed the one who does it. It is haraam and is not permitted.

The evidence:

1) Abd-Allaah ibn Masood said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) say: “Allaah has CURSED the woman who does tattoos and the one who has them done, the woman who plucks eyebrows and the one who has it done, and the one who files her teeth for the purpose of beauty, altering the creation of Allaah.”  (Bukhaari, Muslim)

2) Removing or plucking the eyebrows implies changing the creation of Allaah, as Allaah tells us that the Shaytaan said: …..and indeed I will order them to change the nature created by Allaah.” [al-Nisa:119]


Can you do it if (you think) it makes you look ugly?

Allaah is Wise in what He decrees for His slaves.Some people are beautiful in appearance and some are not; the entire matter is in the hand of Allaah. It is essential to be patient and seek reward with Allaah, and not to transgress His sacred limits for the sake of one’s own whims and desires.

What about hair on her face (like chin, upper lip, etc.) and the rest of her body?

There is no sin on a woman if she removes hair on her upper lip, thighs, calves and arms. This is not part of the plucking that is forbidden. It is one of the things concerning which Sharee’ah did not say anything, so the ruling is that it is permissible, since whatever sharee’ah did not say anything about, in the Qur’aan or Sunnah, is allowed.

“What is Halaal is that which Allaah has permitted in His Book, and what is haraam is that which Allaah has forbidden in His Book, and whatever He has not said anything about is allowable. (al-Tirmidhi-hasan)

What about plucking the hair BETWEEN the eyebrows?

The Ulama tell us that it is permissible to pluck it, because it is not part of the eyebrows.

Can a woman do it if her husband asks her to do so?
It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daaimah: It is not permissible to remove the hair of the eyebrows because this is the plucking for which the Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) cursed those who do it, and it is a kind of changing the creation of Allaah, which is the action of the Shaytaan. If a woman’s husband tells her to do it, she should not obey him,because it is a sin, and there is no obedience to any created being if it involves disobedience towards the Creator. Rather obedience should only be with regard to things that are good and proper, as the Prophet (pbuh) said.

OK, I am not plucking it. But, can I shape it, cut it, etc. ?

Shaykh Ibn Jibreen said: “It is not permissible to cut the hair of the eyebrows, or to shave it, reduce it or pluck it.This is not the matter of beauty, rather it is altering the creation of Allaah Who is the Best of creators. A warning has been narrated against doing that and the one who does it is cursed; this implies that it is forbidden.

So, this is it.

The evidence is clear. There is no difference of opinion among the Ulama about it.

Plucking your eyebrows is HARAAM….. Plain and Simple

No ifs & buts about it.

The Prophet (pbuh) said it….the Ulama explained it…..you have been informed about it.
And you have been WARNED.

Now, it is up to youto decide.

Do you want to be the one who ˜listens and obeys?

Or are you going to be like the one whom Allah describes……

“And when Our Verses are recited to such a one,he turns away in pride, as if he heard them not–as if there were deafness in his ear. So announce to him a painful torment.” (al- Luqman:7)

Read the above Ayah carefully.

Surely, YOU are NOT going to be that one.

Then, give it up, my dear Sister. It’s simply not worth it.You look beautiful even if you didn’t pluck your eyebrows. I Promise You.
Don’t let the Kuffaar get to you.
Don’t be the one whom Allah curses.

Imagine! ALLAAH’S CURSE!!!!

Just think! How can anyone expect goodness and success in this life OR in the Hereafter if Allah’s curse is on them?

O Allah…. save us from Your Curse and guide us to the Right Path. Aameen.

by Asma bint Shameem
taken from Dr.Farhat Hashmi’s website
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Read more about ruling on plucking eyebrows
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/2162
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/22393
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/21393

“Tell them Daddy Is not home!!”

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“So you see,” said Hamza’s father as he finished reading the storybook, “A Muslim never lies and always tells the truth. That’s what Islaam teaches us.” 

Just then, the telephone bell rang sharply in the house. As little Hamza ran to answer it, his father called out, “If it is for me, tell them Daddy is not home!!”

SubhaanAllaah!

This is just one the scenarios in our everyday lives. We claim to be Muslims and unhesitatingly say that we are proud to follow it, but when it comes to putting our words into actions, unfortunately, we are far from it. We teach our children one thing but we do another. We preach piety but we ourselves don’t practice it.

We lie in our everyday lives and in our dealings with everyone yet we are totally unaware of it. There are many of us who, pray and fast, and are the first to criticize others. But our practical lives are full of all forms of lying, fraud and dishonesty. And we see examples of such lying left and right, day in and day out.

And lying doesn’t just mean out rightly telling untruths to someone on their face. Lying includes all kinds of ‘little white lies’, deceit, deceptions and forgery.

So, telling your kid to say “Daddy’s not home’ when, in fact, you are right there is absolutely a from of lying.

And not fulfilling your promises on purpose, when you had the power to do so, is a form of lying. 

And cheating in the exams is a form of lying.

Your ‘friend’ marking you present, although you were absent, is another form of lying.

Faking a ‘doctor’s note’ when in reality, you were not sick, you just overslept or were too lazy to go to work or school is also lying. 

Telling the cop that your wife is having surgery or your kid is sick, (or whatever else excuses one can think of) when he pulls you over for speeding is also lying. 

Dishonesty in your business dealings as well as in your interaction with others is lying.

Giving false witness is one of the gravest forms of lying.

Making a false claim that your injury happened at work, although it didn’t, so that you could get compensation is lying.

Pretending to be of low income and applying for government aid, although you are not in need of it, is another form of lying and deception.

Forging or altering university certificates to get a job or visa, is just plain and simple, lying and fraud.

Altering a bill to ‘save’ some money or for insurance purposes or some other kind of personal gain is also trickery and deceit.

And the list goes on and on…….

lies

We forget that 3Ibaadah doesn’t mean just praying and fasting. TRUE 3Ibaadah includes our ‘Mu3amalaat’, how we deal with others, Muslims as well as non-Muslims, our manners and our behavior.

We forget that lying is one of the MAJOR SINS.

The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

Shall I not tell you of the greatest of major sins?

They said: “Yes, O Messenger of Allaah.” He said:

Association of others with Allaah,  disobedience towards one’s parents” – and he was reclining, but he sat up and said: “And false speech and false witness.”

And we forget that lying is one of the signs of the hypocrites.

The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

The signs of the hypocrite are three: when he speaks, he lies, when he makes a promise he breaks it, and when he is entrusted with something he breaks that trust.” (al-Bukhaari, Muslim)

We also forget that any apparent ‘gain’ that we get from all these forms of lying is not actually any gain at all.

Actually, any money that we earn or save is all haraam because we didn’t earn it lawfully. And it is one of the reasons why dua is rejected by Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta3ala.

Remember the Hadeeth of the Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam:

Then he mentioned a man who had been traveling for a long time and was disheveled and dusty; he stretches out his hands towards the heavens and says, ‘O Lord, O Lord’, but his food is haraam, his drink is haraam, his clothing is haraam. He is nourished by haraam, so how can his du’aa’ be accepted?” (Muslim)

And one of the biggest harms of lying is that it leads to Hell-fire.

The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

“Beware of telling lies, for lying leads to immorality and immorality leads to Hellfire. A man will keep telling lies and striving to tell lies until he is recorded with Allaah as a liar.” (Saheeh Muslim)

Thus we as Muslims, must learn to recognize the different forms of lying as we come across them. We must realize what being truthful really means. It means speaking the truth and saying and doing things that reflect reality. We have to remember the gravity of sin involved in lying and strive to the best of our ability to tell the truth under all circumstances, no matter what the outcome.

If you fear Allaah, He will find ways out of all difficulties for you and provide for you from means you never even imagined.

“And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allaah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allaah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allaah has set a measure for all things.”

(Soorah Talaaq:2-3)

Isn’t the above ayah enough reminder for us??!!

“O you who believe! Be afraid of Allaah, and be with those who are TRUE (in word and deeds).” [soorah at-Tawbah:119]

‘Leave that which makes you doubt for that which does not make you doubt, for truthfulness is certainty and tranquillity, whilst lying is doubt and confusion.” (Saheeh- al-Tirmidhi, al-Nisaa’i, and Ahmad)

by Asma bint Shameem

(original Title: The different forms of lying)

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