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If You don’t find me In Jannah… then Ask About me…

إن أهل الجنة إذا دخلوا الجنة ، ولم يجدوا أصحابهم الذين كانوا معهم على خير في الدنيا ، فإنهم يسألون عنهم رب العزة ويقولون : ” يارب لنا إخوان كانوا يصلون معنا و يصومون معنا لم نرهم 
فيقول الله جل وعلا : اذهبوا للنار وأخرجوا من كان في قلبه مثقال ذرة من إيمان

وقال الحسن البصري  رحمه الله – :  استكثروا من الأصدقاء المؤمنين ، فإن لهم شفاعة يوم القيامة

وإذا رأى الكفار ذلك قالوا(فما لنا من شافعين ولا صديق حميم
الصديق الوفي : هو من يمشي بك إلى الجنة

قال ابن الجوزي رحمه الله : إن لم تجدوني في الجنة بينكم ، فاسألوا عني فقولوا : ياربنا عبدك فلان كان يذكرنا بك !!! ثم بكى رحمه الله رحمة واسعة

وأنا أسألكم إن لم تجدوني بينكم في الجنة ، فاسألوا عني ، لعلي ذكرتكم بالله ولو لمرة واحدة
اللهم نسألك رفقة خيرٍ تعيننا على طاعتك
من درر اﻹمام الشافعي رحمه الله

Surely the people of Jannah when they enter Jannah and they don’t find those companions of theirs who were with them upon good in this world, then verily they will ask Allaah 3Azza wa Jall and they will say: “O Rabb we have brothers who used to pray salaah and fast with us, we do not see them!”

Allaah, jalla wa 3Alaa, will say “Go to the fire and take out any person who had even an atoms amount of Eemaan in their heart!”. (2)

And Hassan Basree (may Allaah have mercy on him) said  “Have lots of believing friends because they will be able to intercede for you on the day of qiyaamah”.

& when the disbeliever will see that, they will say {So now we have no intercessors, And not a devoted friend} (soorah Al-shu3araa)

The loyal friend is one; who walks you to Jannah.

Ibnul Jawzi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

“If you don’t find me with you in Jannah then ask about me, so you should say ‘O our Rabb! your slave so-and-so used to remind us about you’!! then he started weeping.

And I ask you… If you don’t find me in Jannah then ask about me, because I reminded you of Allaah even if it was only for one moment.

“Oh Allaah, we ask you for good friends those who will help us in your obedience.” Aameen

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(2) [A similar narration is available in both Bukharee and Muslim from the hadeeth of Abu Sa3eed Al-Khudari concerning the intercession of the believers on the day of Judgment]
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“Where are those who loved each other for the sake of My glory?”

 عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ، أَنَّهُ قَالَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ

 إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى يَقُولُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ : ” أَيْنَ الْمُتَحَابُّونَ لِجَلَالِي ؟ الْيَوْمَ أُظِلُّهُمْ فِي ظِلِّي يَوْمَ لَا ظِلَّ إِلَّا ظِلِّي 

Abu Hurayrah (radi Allaahu 3Anhu) relates that the Prophet sall-Allaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam said: 

Allaah tabaarak wa ta3aalaa will ask on the Day of Judgment: “Where are those who loved each other for the sake of My glory? Today, on a day when there is no shade but Mine, I shall shade them with My shade.” (1)

عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ:  قَالَ النَّبِىُّ -صلى الله عليه وسلم-:  “إِنَّ مِنْ عِبَادِ اللَّهِ لأُنَاسًا مَا هُمْ بِأَنْبِيَاءَ وَلاَ شُهَدَاءَ يَغْبِطُهُمُ الأَنْبِيَاءُ وَالشُّهَدَاءُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ بِمَكَانِهِمْ مِنَ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى”.

قَالُوا: يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ تُخْبِرُنَا مَنْ هُمْ.

قَالَ:  “هُمْ قَوْمٌ تَحَابُّوا بِرُوحِ اللَّهِ عَلَى غَيْرِ أَرْحَامٍ بَيْنَهُمْ وَلاَ أَمْوَالٍ يَتَعَاطَوْنَهَا, فَوَاللَّهِ إِنَّ وُجُوهَهُمْ لَنُورٌ وَإِنَّهُمْ عَلَى نُورٍ, لاَ يَخَافُونَ إِذَا خَافَ النَّاسُ وَلاَ يَحْزَنُونَ إِذَا حَزِنَ النَّاسُ” 

وَقَرَأَ هَذِهِ الآيَةَ: أَلاَ إِنَّ أَوْلِيَاءَ اللَّهِ لاَ خَوْفٌ عَلَيْهِمْ وَلاَ هُمْ يَحْزَنُونَ 

The Prophet sall-Allaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam said:

Among Allaah’s servants are people who are neither prophets nor martyrs, but whom the prophets and martyrs will deem fortunate because of their high status with Allaah.” 

The Companions asked, “O Messenger of Allaah! Inform us of who they are.” 

The Prophet sall-Allaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam told them that

they are people who loved each other for Allaah’s sake, even without being related to one another or being tied to one another by the exchange of wealth.

The Prophet sall-Allaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam went on to describe their great reward on the Day of Resurrection: 

“By Allaah, their faces will be luminous and they will be upon light. They will feel no fear when the people will be feeling fear, and they will feel no grief when the people will be grieving.” Then he sall-Allaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam read the verse: “Behold! verily on the friends of Allaah there is no fear, nor shall they grieve”. (2)

may Allaah make us amongst those. Aameen

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(1) [Saheeh Muslim, Book 032, Number 6225]

(2) [أخرجه أبو داود: 3527 وغيره, وصححه الألباني رحمهم الله]  [soorah Younus, v:62]

Souls are like conscripted soldiers


عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا قَالَتْ سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ : ” الأَرْوَاحُ جُنُودٌ مُجَنَّدَةٌ فَمَا تَعَارَفَ مِنْهَا ائْتَلَفَ وَمَا تَنَاكَرَ مِنْهَا اخْتَلَفَ . ”  صحيح البخاري : كتاب أحاديث الأنبياء : باب الأرواح جنود مجندة

Imaam al-Bukhaaree rahimahu-Allaahu reported in his Saheeh that 3Aa’ishah radi Allaahu 3Anha said: “I heard the Prophet sallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam saying: ‘Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along with, and those whom they do not recognize, they will not get along with.” (1)

Ibn Hajar rahimahu-Allaahu said in his commentary on the hadeeth: “Concerning the phrase ‘Souls are like conscripted soldiers…’ al-Khattaabi said: ‘This may refer to their similarity as regards good or evil, righteousness or corruption. Good people are inclined towards other good people, and evil people are similarly inclined towards other evil people. Souls feel affinity with others according to the nature in which they were created, good or evil. If souls’ natures are similar, they will get along, otherwise they will not be on good terms with one another. It could be that what is being referred to is the beginning of creation in the realm of the unseen when, it is reported, souls were created before bodies, and used to meet one another and express their pessimism about the future. When souls have entered bodies (come to the physical realm) they may recognize one another from the past, and may be on friendly terms or otherwise based on that past experience.”

The phrase “conscripted soldiers” refers to different types or classifications, or groups brought together. Ibn al-Jawzi said: “What we learn from this hadeeth is that when a person finds that he feels dislike towards someone who is known to be virtuous or righteous, he should try to find out the reason for that so that he can make the effort to rid himself of something undesirable. The opposite (if a person finds himself liking someone who is known to be evil) also applies.”

Al-Qurtubi said: “Although they are all souls, they differ in different ways, so a person will feel an affinity with souls of one kind, and will get along with them because of the special quality that they have in common. So we notice that people of all types will get along with those with whom they share an affinity, and will keep away from those who are of other types. [“Birds of a feather flock together” – Translator].

We may also note that within any given group or type, people may get along with some and dislike others, and this is in accordance with issues or qualities that form the basis of love or hate.”

The hadeeth was also narrated by Muslim in his Saheeh, 4773. Al-Nawawi said: “With regard to the words of the Prophet sallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam, ‘Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along with, and those whom they do not recognize, they will not get along with’, the scholars said that the meaning is groups gathered together, or different types. As for them getting along, this happens because of something in common between them that Allaah has created.

It was said that they are similar attributes that Allaah has created in them, or that they were created in a group and then dispersed in their bodies, so people who have similar characteristics will like one another, and those who do not have similar characteristics will not like one another.

Al-Khattaabi and others said: this getting along with one another has to do with what Allaah decreed from the outset about the ultimate destiny of souls, whether they will be among the blessed [in Paradise] or the doomed [in Hell]. Souls are of two opposing kinds, and when they meet in this physical world, they will either love or hate one another depending on the way they were created. Good souls will be inclined towards other good souls, and evil souls will be inclined towards other evil souls.

And Allaah knows best.

By shaykh Salih Munajjid

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A Soul’s Connection to Another


(1) Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Kitaab Ahaadeeth al-Anbiyaa’, Baab al-Arwaah junood mujannadah

A Soul’s Connection to Another

It is narrated from Abu Hurayrah radi Allaahu 3anhu that the Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu 3alayhi wa sallam said: “Souls are like recruited soldiers, those that recognise one another unite in harmony and those that do not recognise one another are at an aversion.” (1)

Abu Hatim said: “The reason that people find concordancy and harmony between themselves (after the Decree) lies in the recognition of two souls. And likewise, their discord and seperation lies in the aversion of the two souls. Hence if two souls recognise each other, they will find familiarity and affection between themselves and if there is aversion between the two souls they will in turn find aversion and seperation between their beings.

Mujahid (rahimahu-Allaah) said: “Ibn 3Abbas radi Allaahu 3Anhu saw a man and said: “Indeed he loves me”. They said, “And how do you know?!”

He said, “Because I love him and souls are like recruited soldiers, those that recognise one another  unite in harmony and those that do not recognise one another are at an aversion.”

Abu Bakr al-Anbari recited:

Indeed the hearts are soldiers enlisted for Allaah
Upon the earth, through affection do they recognise each other
So those at a familiarity are held in harmony
And those enstranged are at a difference

It is narrated from Qatadah (rahimah-Allaah) that he said regarding the verse of Allaah,

إِلاَّ مَن رَّحِمَ رَبُّكَ وَلِذَلِكَ خَلَقَهُمْ

“Except him on whom your Lord has bestowed His Mercy and for that did He create them.” (2)

He said: “(Created them) for mercy and obedience. As for the people of obedience, their hearts and desires are unified even though they may be distant from each other (living apart). And as for the people of disobedience, then their hearts are at a discord even though they may be closel gathered and living together”.

Mansoor al-Karizi:

Whatever the eyes and heart behold will be in affection
For neither the heart nor the eyes can be concealed
But they are only two souls, one in view of the other
So one recognises the other and hence they meet

Abu Hatim: The greatest sign that alludes to what a person is like in his daily affair is expressed through whom he befriends and whom he is at enmity with, because a person is on the path of his friend and birds of a feather only flock together. I have never seen something more indicative of another, moreso even than smoke indicating fire, as much as I’ve seen a companion allude to the reality of his companion.

The smart one avoids accompanying the doubtful one and he keeps away from the one whose Deen is questionable because whoever keeps in the company of a people is known by them and whoever lives with a person ends up being attributed to him. A man does not befriend except one who is like him or of his nature (i.e. in character). If a person does not find one to befriend from amongst the people, he seeks out one whose companionship will only beautify him and it will not disgrace him to be known by him. If he sees goodness from him, he counts it (and remembers it), and if he sees a bad thing he conceals it for him, and if he remains silent over it he’s the first to speak about it to him, and were he to ask of anything he would give it.

Indeed, from amongst Mankind is one who if a person were to see him, he would be amazed. And if he got to know him more, his amazement would increase. And from amongst them is one who has an aversion to another upon seeing him, and getting to know him only increases him in hostility. Their agreement is due to the agreement of their souls from aforetime, and their aversion is due to their souls’ aversion.

If two souls meet in affection and are then forced to depart with the departure of life without any hateful event or they depart due to death, then that there is shocking death and grevious pain. There has never been a moment of such prolonged grief, such apparant loss, lasting sorrow, deep sadness and lament more so than when two brethrens or beloveds are seperated.

And no-one has tasted a taste more bitter than when two close friends are seperated and it’s all over.

I wonder at the one who extends his right hand
To his beloved at the time of seperation and he hastens therein!
I felt weak and incapable of saying farewell when I saw him
So my heart shook his hand whilst my eye wept.

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Souls are like conscripted soldiers


From book “‘Gardens of the Intelligent & Journeys of the Virtuous’” by Ibn Habban
Translated by Farhia Yahya
(1) Saheeh Muslim
(2) Soorah Hood, v: 119

Judging Friendships

“How To Judge a Friendship as Muslims”

يَـٰوَيۡلَتَىٰ لَيۡتَنِى لَمۡ أَتَّخِذۡ فُلَانًا خَلِيلاً۬

“Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken so-and-so as a Khaleel (an intimate friend)!

[Soorah Al-Furqaan, v:28]

The one who is always there to console you when you want to talk about a problem, the one who sticks by you through thick and thin, the one whom you can count on to be there for you – this is the person who leaves no doubts in your mind that he or she is your “best friend”.

You like each other’s company and love to spend time together. If something important happens in your life, they’re the first to know. You trust them and depend upon them in times of need. They may be a classmate, a colleague, a neighbor, a sister, a mother; or even your spouse! It could be anyone who fits this description.

But are they really your “true” friend?

How can you find out?

Ask yourself: are they taking you towards the most certain and perpetual success and
benefit: that of the Hereafter, or are they going to be the cause of regret
for you on the Day of Judgment? See for yourself.

Here is a checklist.

When in each other’s company, you both:

  • Comfortably backbite and make fun of people.
  • Laugh at others together, be it a passerby or someone you are discussing.
  • Pass comments about others.
  • Call each other demeaning names in fun.
  • Laugh at each other’s cruel jokes about someone else.
  • Start a conversation with “Hi!” and plunge into an exchange of the latest gossip.
  • Hardly ever mention or discuss Allaah, the Qur’aan or Hadeeth in the time spent together.
  • End up spending money on things you don’t need.
  • Feel hesitant to discuss religion, unless it is a criticism of any aspect of Islam.
  • Confirm each other’s doubts about the Hereafter.
  • Never point out each other’s faults politely; if one does, the other quickly changes the subject or gets defensive.
  • Get involved in activities that delay/do away with salaah (Prayer), the major obligation from Allaah.
  • Have never prayed any salaah together.
  • Support each other in fulfilling every desire – a dress that caught your fancy, or the in-fashion shoes, even if they are not needed.
  • Discuss unimportant things and events in meticulous detail, such as a film, the latest clothes you got tailored, or a wedding party you attended.

Besides the above points, you both are fully aware of each other’s family’s and in-laws’ faults and short-comings.

When one of you feels guilty about having committed a sin, the other quickly offers reassurance that “It’s no
big deal, everyone does it”, and comes up with convincing excuses for the other not to feel guilty about it.

When one of you starts doing something that is impermissible in Islam, the other offers support and help; for
example, when one starts to backbite, the other becomes attentive and listens closely.

When one discovers a shortcoming of the other, they leave no chance to make fun of it.

If they take something that belongs to you, you know that you will not get it back unless you ask for it

About a ‘friendship’ that has most of the above characteristics, Allaah says in the Qur’aan:

ٱلۡأَخِلَّآءُ يَوۡمَٮِٕذِۭ بَعۡضُهُمۡ لِبَعۡضٍ عَدُوٌّ إِلَّا ٱلۡمُتَّقِينَ

“Friends on that day will be foes one to another – except the Righteous Ones.”

[Soorah Al-Zukhruf , v:67]

All such “friends” will, on the Day of Judgment, become each other’s enemies, each lamenting and blaming the other before Allaah, for having supported and encouraged them towards the ultimate and eternal destruction.

Allaah subhaanahu wa ta3alaa makes an exception to this situation in the Qur’aanic verse above:
“except those who are al-muttaqoon: the righteous ones”.

So who are these ‘righteous ones’, who will be happily together in the Hereafter just as they were together in the world?

How can you tell whether your friend is really and truly your sincere “friend”?

Here is another checklist of characteristics that depict a friendship that will lead to success in the Hereafter inshaAllaah.

When together, you both:

  • Remind each other of Allaah when you set eyes on each other.
  • Leave each other’s company with a higher level of Eemaan (faith in Allaah).
  • Inevitably start the conversation with the Islamic greeting “Assalaamu 3Alaykum’, and receive the masnoon reply for it.
  • Do the masnoon mu’aanaqah (hug) and musafahah (handshake) on a regular basis.
  • Almost always mention Allaah, the Qur’aan, or Hadeeth in some context or the other, in your conversations.
  • Strengthen each other’s belief on the Hereafter.
  • Always end up exchanging useful and mature ideas and thoughts.
  • Love each other above and beyond worldly benefits.
  • Give each other more duaa’s (well wishes) than material gifts.
  • Inquire regularly about the health of the other’s family.
  • Attend religious study-circles/ halaqah’s together.
  • Have prayed salaah together many times.
  • Have watched each other cry, out of fear of Allaah or out of regret for committing a transgression.
  • Listen attentively if the other is saying something that pleases Allaah.
  • Politely point out and reform each other’s mistakes or bad habits in the best way possible.
  • Return an amaanah (item placed in other’s trust/safekeeping) belonging to the other in its original state.
  • Laugh a lot together, but with decent, non-malicious humor.
  • Become uninterested and change the subject if the other starts to say something that is impermissible.
  • Always discourage the other if they plan to do something wrong.
  • Always encourage the other if they intend to do a good deed that they’re hesitant to do.
  • Consult each other in important matters.
  • Give each other advice seriously and sincerely.
  • Never waste each other’s time in useless activities.
  • Never invite the other to a place or gathering of sin.
  • Have full trust that they will never reveal secrets or personal problems to others, nor will they gossip about you behind your back.
  • Address each other in a respectful and loving manner.
  • Forgive each other’s faults and shortcomings, and hide them from others.

Those whose friendships possess most of the above characteristics are among the fortunate people who can experience a glimpse of the assembly of Paradise in the life of this world itself, where they have such sincere and true friends – friends who love them for the sake of Allaah. It is they who shall be saved from all kinds of discomfort and pain on the Day of Judgment when their Lord will provide them with a special place under His Throne, according to His promise:

Narrated by Abu Hurairah [may Allaah be pleased with him]: Allaah’s Messenger sallAllaahu 3alayhi wa sallam said:

“Verily, Allaah will say on the Day of Standing: ‘Where are those who had mutual love for the sake of My Glory? Today I shall shelter them in My shadow when there is no other shadow but the shadow of Mine.'”

[Saheeh Muslim, 6225]


by Sadaf Farooqi, a freelance writer who writes for Hiba Magazine,, Helium and MuslimMatters.

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