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Ramadaan Resources (1)

Bismillaah

Ramadaan, the month of Rahmah, the month of forgiveness is just at our door-steps.

Some beneficial and MUST read notes and links that will help us to get ready for Ramadaan &  welcome it in the best way.

Its never too late to start, let’s strive our best to have a fruitful Ramadaan in-shaa’-Allaah.  (Click the blue links)

A detailed practical advice by Shaykh Salih Al-Munajjid, about preparing ourselves for the arrival of Ramadaan. Click below & do read it.

Prepare For The Arrival of Ramadaan

Another good read to prepare ourselves & feel the importance of this great month. We prepare our homes, when we have a special guest coming over. Now someone more precious, more valuable, more honorable. is coming! how you are gonna welcome it?

Preparing For An Amazing Ramadaan

Some of the common mistakes in Ramadaan, that people are un-aware. Its a good read.

Part 1 here & Part 2 here

This is a must read booklet, “70 Matters related to Fasting” by shaykh Salih Al-Munajjid.

This booklet is available in English & Urdu.

Download in English from here & in Urdu from here

Also, some more E-books are available here on different topics. (Virtues, Fiqh & getting most of Ramadaan, Taraweeh, Qiyaam Al-layl, last 10 days & more).

To get the most of Ramadaan, by organizing ourselves and avoiding the time wasters. here are some good articles & videos.

This is a MUST MUST read!! Personal transcribed notes from a lecture. Tips to manage your time & focus during Ramadaan.

Time Management Tips for Ramadaan

Ramadaan is a special time  & it needs special preparation. To get the best of Ramadaan, we need to have a break from certain things. A Must Read (personal notes from a lecture) click below

Welcoming Ramadaan

These are some personal tips to avoid distraction, that takes away a lot of time, un-noticing & with out realizing. Do read and save your time for 3ibaadah.

Tips To Avoid Distractions During Ramadaan

This is a MUST read for sisters.  

RCTS – Ramadaan Cooking Tips for Sisters 

Different 3Ibaadah & Good Deeds, that can be done in Ramadaan

A short reminder by Shaykh Assim Al-hakeem

A Short Reminder on Preparing For Ramadaan

some beneficial advices from Shaykh Muhammad Hassan, click below

How to Spend Ramadaan

Beneficial advice by Shaykh Nabeel Al-3Awadhi about how to utilize our time during Ramadaan.

Welcome Ramadaan In the Best Way

To be continued in-shaa’-Allaah

Ramadaan Resources (2)

Related Links:

Ramadaan E-Books

Some Common mistakes in Ramadaan (2)

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(continued from part 1)

Skipping Suhoor

Some of us are too lazy or sleepy to eat Suhoor or just don’t think it’s important. Even if you don’t feel like having a lot of food, just eat something little; a few dates, even a glass of water. That’s because the Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

Eat suhoor for in suhoor there is blessing” (1)

It was narrated from Jaabir that the Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

Whoever wants to fast, let him eat something for suhoor.” (2)

suhoor.blessing

Stopping Suhoor at ‘Imsaak’

Some people stop eating Suhoor 10-15 minutes earlier than the time of Fajr to observe ‘Imsaak’. They think they cannot eat beyond that time and that it would be wrong if they did.

Shaykh Ibn 3Uthaymeen was asked about some timetables which give the time of imsaak as being approximately one-quarter of an hour before Fajr. He said:

This is a kind of bid3ah (innovation) which has no basis in the Sunnah. Rather the Sunnah is to do the opposite. Allaah allows us to eat until dawn: “and eat and drink until the white thread (light) of dawn appears to you distinct from the black thread (darkness of night)” [al-Baqarah 2:187]

And the Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said: “….eat and drink until you hear the adhaan of Ibn Umm Maktoom, for he does not give the adhaan until dawn comes.”

This ‘imsaak’ which some of the people practice, is an addition to what Allaah has prescribed, so it is false. It is a kind of extremism in religion, and the Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:
“Those who go to extremes are doomed, those who go to extremes are doomed, those who go to extremes are doomed.” (3)

Not fasting if they missed Suhoor

Sometimes, our alarm doesn’t go off on time and we miss the time for eating, just barely waking up with the adhaan. I’m sure this has happened to all of us one time or another. In this situation, there are some people who are too scared to fast if they miss Suhoor. They think they will feel too weak during the day or that, by default, missing Suhoor automatically means NO fast that day.

But, if you think about it, unless a person has a genuine health problem, it is not such a big deal after all. What if you missed a few morsels of food? You’ll be fine in-shaa’-Allaah. Alhamdulillaah most of us have enough fat stored in our bodies to keep us going for several days without food!

Remember, obedience to Allaah takes precedence over everything. 

Shaykh Salih Al-Munajjid said: “If a Muslim does not eat suhoor or does not wake up for Fajr, this is not counted as a reason for him not to fast.” (4)

Saying the intention to fast ‘out loud’ or saying a specific dua to start fasting

The intention is an action of the heart. We should resolve in our heart that we are going to fast tomorrow. That is all we need. It is not prescribed by the Shari’ah for us to say out loud, “I intend to fast”, “I will fast tomorrow” or other phrases that have been innovated by some people.

Also, there is no specific du3aa’ to be recited at the time of starting the fast in the correct Sunnah. Whatever du3aa’  you may see on some papers or Ramadaan calendars, etc. is not from sunnah.

suhoor dua

Delaying breaking fast

Some people wait until the adhaan finishes or even several minutes after that, just to be ‘on the safe side’. However, the Sunnah is to hasten to break the fast, which means breaking fast whenever the adhaan starts, right after the sun has set. Aa3ishah radi Allaahu 3Anha said: This is what the Messenger of AllaahSallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam used to do.

The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

“The people will continue to do well so long as they hasten to break the fast.” (5)

Al-Nawawi said: 

This hadeeth urges us to hasten to break the fast as soon as it is established that the sun has set. What this means is that the ummah will continue to be in a sound state and they will be fine so long as they continue to adhere to this Sunnah. (6)

Eating continuously until the time for Maghrib is up

Some people put so much food in their plates when breaking their fast and continue eating, enjoying dessert, drinking tea, etc., until they miss Maghrib. That is obviously not right.

What one should do is to hasten to break the fast by eating small morsels that will calm one’s hunger, then get up to pray, then if one wishes, one may come back and eat more.

 This is what the Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam used to do. (7)

Missing the golden chance of having your Du3aa’ accepted

The prayer of the fasting person is guaranteed to be accepted at the time of breaking fast. The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

 “There are three whose du3aa’ will not be rejected, …………..the fasting person when he breaks his fast…” (8)

Instead of sitting down and making Du3aa’ at this precious time, some people forego this beautiful chance, and are too busy frying ‘samosas’, talking, setting the food, filling their plates and pouring drinks into their glasses and they lose this golden opportunity.

Think about it…. Is food more important than the chance to have your sins forgiven or the fulfillment of your Du3aa’?

Not fasting because of exams or work

Exams or work is NOT one of the excuses allowed by the Shari3ah to not fast. You can do your studying and revision at night if it is too hard to do that during the day.

Shaykh Ibn Baaz was asked about that and he replied: 

It is not permissible for an adult of sound mind to break the fast during Ramadaan because of exams, because that is not one of the excuses permitted in Islam. Rather he has to fast and do his studying at night if it is hard for him to do it during the day. Those who are in charge of exams should be kind to the students and arrange the exams at a time other than Ramadaan, so as to serve two purposes: the purpose of fasting and that of giving students time to prepare for the exams.

The Standing Committee said: 

It is not permissible to break the fast for the reason you mentioned, rather that is haraam, because it is not included among the excuses for which it is permissible to break the Ramadaan fast. (9)

Also remember that pleasing and obeying Allaah is much more important than ‘good grades’. Besides, if you will fulfil your obligation to fast, even if you have to study, Allaah will make it easy for you and help you in everything you do.

“Whosoever fears Allaah, He will appoint for him a way out and provide for him from where he does not expect, Allaah is Sufficient for whosoever puts his trust in Him.” (Soorah at-Talaaq, v: 2-3)

Fasting and not wearing Hijaab

Women’s observing hijab in front of non-mahram men and covering their faces is something that is obligatory as is indicated by the Book of our Lord and the Sunnah of our Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam. (10) The correct view is that a woman is obliged to cover her entire body, even the face and hands. (11)

If a woman does not wear hijab, then she is disobeying her Lord thereby, but her fast is still valid, because sins, including not wearing hijab, do not invalidate the fast, but they detract from its reward (12)

Lavish Iftaar parties

Although inviting each other for breaking fast is something good and encouraged, some people go to extremes with lavish ‘Iftaar parties’ with all sorts of disobedience to Allaah, from flirting, mixing of the sexes and hijaab-less women, to show-off and extravagance, to heedlessness to Salaah and Taraaweeh, to even music and dancing.

Mixing fasting and dieting

DO NOT make the mistake of fasting with the intention to diet. That is one of the biggest mistakes some of us make, especially the sisters.

Fasting is an act of worship and should only and only, be for the sake of Allah alone. Otherwise, mixing it with the intention of dieting may become a form of (minor) Shirk. Sure, there are always added benefits of obeying Allaah, one of them being, losing weight while fasting. That comes in automatically, so reap the benefits but don’t make it part of your intention. If the side benefits come, they come. If they don’t, that shouldn’t stop you from obeying Allaah and fulfilling your duty.

Fighting over the number of Raka3ah of Taraweeh

There is no specific number of rak’ahs for Taraweeh prayer, rather it is permissible to do a little or a lot. Both 8 and 20 are okay.

Taraweeh

Shaykh Ibn 3Uthaymeen said:

“No one should be denounced for praying eleven or twenty-three (rak3ah), because the matter is broader in scope than that, praise be to Allaah.” (13)

What is really important, my brothers and sisters, is the command to observe night prayers during Ramadaan, which is encouraged without specifying a particular number. As long as we are praying our Taraaweeh, it shouldn’t be a matter of dispute or disunity whether it is 8 or 20 or even more. And of course, what really counts is that Allaah accepts it from us, even if it is two rak3aat, right?

Praying ONLY on the night of the 27th

Some people pray ONLY on the 27th to seek Lailat ul-Qadr, neglecting all other odd nights, although the Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

“Seek Laylat ul-Qadr among the odd numbered nights of the last ten nights of Ramadaan.” (14)

Wasting the last part of Ramadhaan preparing for Eid

Some people waste the entire last 10 days of Ramadaan preparing for 3Eed, shopping and frequenting malls, etc. neglecting 3Ibaadah and Laylatul Qadr, although, the Prophet SallAllaahu Alayhi wa Sallam used to strive the hardest during the last ten days of Ramadaan in worship and not in shopping.

3Aa’ishah Radi-Allaahu 3Anha said:

“When the (last) ten nights began, the Messenger of Allaah SallAllaahu Alayhi wa Sallam would tighten his waist-wrapper (i.e., strive hard in worship or refrain from intimacy with his wives), stay awake at night and wake his family.” (15)

May Allaah guide us to practice what we learn, spend Ramadaan as is pleasing to Him and may we reap the fruits of Ramadaan and may Allaah accept our Ramadaan. Aameen.

By Asma bint Shameem

Edited & modified by TowardsHuda

Read part 1 here

Related Posts:

Time Management Tips for Ramadaan 

RCTS – Ramadaan Cooking Tips for Sisters [New]

Tips To Avoid Distractions During Ramadaan

How to Spend Ramadaan by Shaykh Muhammad Hassan

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References:

(1) Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1923; Muslim, 1095

(2) Narrated by Ahmad, 14533; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 2309

(3) http://islamqa.info/en/12602 and http://islamqa.info/en/1155

(4) http://islamqa.info/en/37943

(5) Al-Bukhaari (1957) and Muslim (1098)

(6) http://islamqa.info/en/50019

(7) http://islamqa.info/en/13999 and   http://islamqa.info/en/366

(8) al-Tirmidhi (2525), classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

(9) Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 10/240. http://islamqa.info/en/60296

(10) http://islamqa.info/en/11774

(11) http://islamqa.info/en/21536

(12) http://islamqa.info/en/107624

(13) Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 1/407

(14) Bukhaaree & Muslim

(!5) Bukhaaree & Muslim

Some Common mistakes in Ramadaan (1)

Some Common mistakes in Ramadaan

Taking Ramadaan as a ritual:

For many of us Ramadaan has lost its spirituality and has become more of a ritual than a form of 3Ibaadah. We fast from morning to night just because everyone around us is fasting too. We forget that it’s a time to purify our hearts and our souls from all evil….we forget to make du3aa’, forget to beseech Allaah to forgive us and ask Him to save us from the Fire of Hell. Sure we stay away from food and drink but that’s about all. Although the Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

Jibreel said to me, ‘May Allaah rub his nose in the dust, that person to who Ramadaan comes and his sins are not forgiven,’ and I said, ‘Ameen’….” (1)

Fasting but not praying

Realize that the fasting of one who does not pray WILL NOT BE ACCEPTED. This is because not praying constitutes kufr as the Prophet Sall-Allaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

Between a man and shirk and kufr there stands his giving up prayer.” (2)

In fact, NONE of his good deeds will be accepted; rather, they are all annulled. The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

Whoever forsakes ‘Asr prayer, his deeds are in vain.” (3)

This hadeeth indicates that in the case of one who does not pray, Allaah will not accept any deed from him, so the one who does not pray will not benefit at all from his deeds, and no good deeds of his will ascend to Allaah. (4)

Too much stress on food and drink

For some people, the entire month of Ramadaan revolves around food. They spend the ENTIRE day planning, cooking, shopping and thinking about only food, instead of concentrating on Salaah, Qur’aan and other acts of worship. All they can think of is FOOD, so much so that they turn the month of ‘fasting’ into the month of ‘feasting’. Come Iftaar time, their table is a sight to see, with the multitudes and varieties of food, sweets and drinks. They are missing the very purpose of fasting, and thus, increase in their greed and desires instead of learning to control them.

And remember, too much food is also a kind of waste & extravagance.

وَكُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا وَلَا تُسْرِفُوا ۚ إِنَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ الْمُسْرِفِينَ

“…..and eat and drink but waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allaah) likes not Al-Musrifoon (those who waste by extravagance)” [soorah al-A3raaf , v:31]

Spending all day cooking

Some of the sisters (either by their own choice or forced by their husbands) are cooking ALL day and ALL night, so that by the end of the day, they are too tired to even pray 3Ishaa’, let alone pray Taraaweeh or Tahajjud; too exhausted to even read Qur’aan.

This is the month of mercy and forgiveness, du3aa’ and 3Ibaadah, to increase in your taqwa and to improve your relationship with Allaah. And how can you do that if you spend all your time in the kitchen cooking? So turn off that stove and turn on your Eemaan!

(read here Ramadaan cooking tips for sisters)

Eating too much

Some people stuff themselves at Suhoor until they are ready to burst, because they think this is the way to not feel hungry during the day and some people eat at Iftaar, like there is no tomorrow, trying to ‘make up for the food they missed.’ However, this is completely against the Sunnah. Remember, moderation is the key to everything.

The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

The son of Adam does not fill any vessel worse than his stomach; for the son of Adam a few mouthfuls are sufficient to keep his back straight. If you must fill it, then one-third for food, one-third for drink and one-third for air. (5)

Besides, too much food distracts a person from many deeds of obedience and worship, makes him lazy.

Sufyaan al-Thawri (may Allaah have mercy on his) said: If you want your body to be healthy and to sleep less, then eat less.  

Eating too much also makes the heart heedless. It was said to Imam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on him):

Does a man find any softness and humility in his heart when he is full?

He said, I do not think so.” (6)

Sleeping all day

Some people spend their entire day (or a major part of it) ‘sleeping away their fast’. Is this what is really required of us during this noble month?

These people are also missing the purpose of fasting and just falling prey to laziness and lethargy. All it needs is to exert a little self-control. For a fasting person to spend most of the day asleep is nothing, but negligence on his part.

The Standing Committee said regarding this: “For a fasting person to spend most of the day asleep is a kind of negligence on his part, especially since the month of Ramadaan is a special time and the Muslim should strive to benefit from it by reading Qur’aan a great deal, seeking provision and acquiring knowledge.” (7)

Fasting but not giving up evil

Some of us fast but do not give up lying, cursing, fighting, backbiting, etc. and some of us fast but do not give up cheating, stealing, dealing in haraam, buying lotto tickets, selling alcohol, committing fornication, etc. and all kinds of impermissible things without realizing that the purpose of fasting is to not stay away from food and drink; rather the aim behind it is to fear Allaah.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا كُتِبَ عَلَيْكُمُ الصِّيَامُ كَمَا كُتِبَ عَلَى الَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

“O you who believe! Fasting is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)” [soorah al-Baqarah 2:183]

The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said:

“Whoever does not give up false speech and acting upon it and ignorant conduct, Allaah has no need of his giving up his food and drink.” (8)

In another narration:

Whoever does not give up obscene talk and lying, Allaah has no need of his giving up his food and drink.” (9)

Ramadhaan highway Code  - Dos And Donts

Wasting time

The month of Ramadaan is a precious, precious time, so much so that Allaah calls this month أَيَّامًا مَّعْدُودَاتٍ

“Ayyaamum Ma3doodaat” (A fixed number of days) (10)

Before we know it, this month of mercy and forgiveness will be over. We should try and spend every moment possible in the worship of Allaah so that we can make the most of this blessing. However, there are some of us who waste away their day playing video games, or worse still, watching TV, movies or even listening to music.

Subhaan Allaah! Trying to obey Allaah by DISOBEYING him!

Make the best of this Ramadaan (see here & here). who knows this could be our last Ramadan.

Smoking

Smoking is haraam (forbidden) in Islaam whether during Ramadaan or outside of it (11) as it is one of al-Khabaa’ith (evil things). And this includes ALL kinds of ‘smoking material’ whether it is cigars, cigarettes, pipes,’Sheesha’, hookah or even worse than that. (12)

وَيُحِلُّ لَهُمُ الطَّيِّبَاتِ وَيُحَرِّمُ عَلَيْهِمُ الْخَبَائِثَ

“He allows them as lawful At Tayyibaat (all good and lawful things), and prohibits them as unlawful Al Khabaa’ith (all evil and unlawful things) (13)

Smoking is harmful, not only to the one smoking, but also to the ones around him. It is also a means of wasting one’s wealth.

The Prophet SallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa Sallam said: “There should be no harming or reciprocating harm.”

& Smoking invalidates the fast. (14)

To be continued…..part 2

By Asma bint Shameem, edited & modified by TowardsHuda

Related Posts:

Time Management Tips for Ramadaan 

How to Spend Ramadaan by Shaykh Muhammad Hassan

Welcome Ramadaan In the Best Way [New]

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References:

(1) Tirmidhi, Ahmad, others. Saheeh by al-Albaani

(2) Narrated by Muslim, 82

(3) Bukhaaree, 553

(4) http://islamqa.info/en/37820

(5) Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2380; Ibn Maajah, 3349. Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 1939

(6) http://islamqa.info/en/11153

(7) Al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah li’l-Buhooth al-‘Ilmiyyah, 10/212

(8) Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6057

(9)Tabaraani in al-Mu’jam al-Sagheer and al-Mu’jam al-Awsat. Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb

(10) Soorah Al-Baqarah, v:184

(11) http://islamqa.info/en/37765 and http://islamqa.info/en/10922

(12) http://islamqa.info/en/7432 –

(13)  Soorah al-A3raaf :157

(14) http://islamqa.info/en/106450 and http://islamqa.info/en/37765

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